Feeling Rejected...By Girls

Metabolik · 11-20-2007, 10:08 AM

I feel a little rejected at the moment, I want to know why some girls don't like me, I'm not sure if it's the way I act, i've been told i'm a very mice person and funny in the good way...I ask your personal opinion...am I good looking at all...even mildly good looking?

Metabolik · 11-20-2007, 10:18 AM

The picture is my profile picture, i'll upload a better one later...

Metabolik · 11-20-2007, 10:23 AM

http://i243.photobucket.com/albums/f...g?t=1195582607

Underwater Ophelia · 11-20-2007, 10:28 AM

You're a cutie pie.

But that's irrelevant. Even if you looked like Richard Dean Anderson, not every girl is going to be attracted to you.

I mean, there are even guys that don't think I'M attractive. I have yet to find one, but I'm sure he exists.
HAHHAAHA.

But for real, everything except that last part you should pay attention to.

Metabolik · 11-20-2007, 11:12 AM

Lol I went red...ish...*regains manlyness* anyways, thanks for the confidence boost...

Stormtrooper of Death · 11-20-2007, 04:09 PM

Hey everything will work out. I'm having the same problem now. But I know my punkette is waiting, somewhere. For now I just read and practice with my band.

GothicChristian · 11-20-2007, 05:31 PM

You're not ugly, you just have to wait for the right person.

StasisInDarkness · 11-20-2007, 05:44 PM

I echo the above sentiments...you're adorable.

But that shouldn't be the sole basis of any relationship...

HumanePain · 11-20-2007, 06:17 PM

Dude, confidence is part of the overall impression. That will amplify your attractiveness. And smile.

Heck, I am attracted to confident women! But just as eye candy, I am happily married.

DarkRevalations · 11-21-2007, 04:23 AM

Man, you look pretty cool, if I was a girl I would like you, lol,
But i agree with HumanePain, confidence is key, trust me, I used to have exactly the same problem, and tried the confidence thing at a freinds suggestion, and it worked!!!!!

The best tip I can give you: Just start a conversation with the girl you like, and be yourself, maybe throw in a couple of jokes, if you two are a match, then you will hit it off, if not, then there are always more fish in the proverbial sea.

Hope it helps. 8)

le_revenant · 11-21-2007, 10:28 PM

I sympathize w/ ya bub, tho you look like a cool kinda guy.
I typically couldn't get a woman to give me the time of day either tho my gal pals will say, from time to time, "ok, and why are you still single?"
to which I then chuckle, bitterly

Mon Coeur Noir · 11-21-2007, 11:58 PM

YES. Confidence! I've always looked the same but I will tell you this. The moment I stopped beating myself up about how I looked, and got into what I did like, I got A LOT more attention. If you feel you aren't special then it shows in how you present yourself. And if a girl sees you acting like you are worthless then they will take your cue & follow suit.

KontanKarite · 11-22-2007, 08:30 AM

Confidence does help. But not every girl is going to like you.

There's this one person I know who is benevolent, confident, and friendly. But they don't strike me as someone I'd want to date.

You have to pretty much make yourself a combination of being confident and something others can't have. The more you make it obvious that you're happy being single and confident, the more others will want to "possess" you.

Even then, girls wont always be attracted to you. I'm sure there's lots of girls and guys that aren't attracted to me in that way. Just be you, love yourself, and be confident.

Metabolik · 11-25-2007, 08:39 AM

Cheers guys, I really appreciate this.

Hackman · 11-25-2007, 09:38 AM

I'm ugly as hell and I'm engaged, and if girls don't like you because of your appearance they arnt worth the effort. You will find someone who loves you for you and the relationship will be more rewarding.

Good luck,

Hackman

lilacgoddess · 11-25-2007, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Metabolik

I feel a little rejected at the moment, I want to know why some girls don't like me, I'm not sure if it's the way I act, i've been told i'm a very mice person and funny in the good way...I ask your personal opinion...am I good looking at all...even mildly good looking?

A decent looking fellow, however, not every girl in the universe sees good looking in the same manner. Relax, and let yourself find the right girl. There is plenty of time for you to charm your way*wink, nudge* into the beating, beautiful heart of some yon maiden.

Funny and nice are in the eye of the beholder as well, darling. Some ladies prefer slow and serious, or fast and rugged. Be who you are, and your love will show her face to you, and you will feel the skipping of heartbeats when the time is right.

Post Modern Girl · 11-27-2007, 03:00 AM

I think you're really rather pretty

Breathless Horror · 11-27-2007, 12:46 PM

Dude, in the words of the great Dr. Seuss, "Be who you are, those who mind don't matter, and those who matter won't mind". Give it time, you'll find someone. As the others said, confidence is key.

Graveyard.Crow · 11-27-2007, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Post Modern Girl

I think you're really rather pretty

I think YOU are gorgeous
Show me more pictures.
This might sound creepy, but I'm not trying to sound that way, I just wanted to let you know!

Graveyard.Crow · 11-27-2007, 02:01 PM

Anyway
Metabolik, you ARE cute, but don't dwell on that
seriously, shallow women get tiring.

Valerius · 11-28-2007, 12:45 AM

Don't! Don't give GC any more of your pictures! She'll just print it out, lock herself in her sock drawer and cut herself while sniffing at your photo!

I've seen it firsthand and I'm still mentally scarred!

Just kidding.

Anyhoo. What did I tell you, man? Didn't I tell you to be more confident? Was it you who I even talked to about girls? Yes, I do believe so. Confidence is key, so you must act like you're a man amongst mice.

Well, not to that point but don't act like you have no respect for yourself.

Post Modern Girl · 11-28-2007, 01:14 AM

To Graveyard.Crow

Well i think you're damn gorgeous

6SixSick · 02-20-2011, 02:07 AM

work hard, grow rich, get old then marry a young blonde tart. It worked wonders for me. I would show you my wife but she always seems to want to help the poolboy do his job nowadays such a saintly young lady

theact · 02-20-2011, 09:32 AM

Confidence may be key, unfortunately, it does not come in cans. Or any other convenient form of easy to use packaging.. And believe me, if it did Id have found it.
Meeting more people is always a good way to increase your chances of finding someone who is interested in you (and who you are interested in) This is difficult but not impossible. When i first moved to this city I knew two people, eventually I got so bored of sitting at home that I was forced to start talking to strangers, generally through asking for a light at a pub/club and then explaining that Id just moved and taking the conversation from there. That wasn't easy, I'm a pretty introverted person most of the time, but the end result was worth it. Pubs might not be applicable if you don't like drinking/are underage or some such but I'm sure you get my point.
Also I suggest reading the book 'how to win friends and influence people' I know the title sounds a bit up itself, and its from the 1930's but its a classic, and has some really useful tips for how to be (or at least come across as) a more interesting agreeable person. Easy immediately applicable tips like remembering peoples name etc.

Mr.Doobie · 02-20-2011, 09:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Metabolik

i've been told i'm a very mice person

This set up red flags for me. Ask yourself, are you a "nice guy", or are you a "Nice Guy" (http://petitechablis.wordpress.com/2009/08/27/the-nice-guy-problem/)?

There is a difference, and I suggest you read the article. In my experience, real nice guys don't usually have too much of a problem finding partners. If you seem to be having constant issues with finding and/or keeping a partner, than maybe the problem is with you.