The Right One

[Catch]

Does anyone else have the belief that there is a "Right One?" You know, the falatistic belief that everyone has a someone. For every Adam there is an Eve. For every man born there is a complimentry woman born and they are meant to be with eachother and to steal away someone that is not your "One" is a capital crime that leads to mass chaos.

Well, I believe that there is a "Right One." I've spent a great deal of time looking for the one. Now I am a lot older and people treat me differently, but through my experiences growing up, I never met anyone that I found to be the right person.

Now I am questioning the whole concept and thinking of lightening up on it a bit. Tonight I was going to go out with someone that might be the One. In fact, I generally sleep with people way too fast and have had three common law marriages based on the idea of the One. I rationalize that they are the One and get all psyched up, then they aren't as perfect as hoped.

Back to the story. I was sitting around waiting for them. They were going to pick me up this evening. Now it is still evening, but they haven't shown up. Therefore, very quickly they are off the list they are not the One.

It is very traumatic, but not the first time. Gotten jaded a bit. Still Very Psyched. What happens? Who knows. Feel kind of let down. At the same time it is lame. I feel lame a stupid. Thinking maybe I do have AS, even after saying I don't.

Ugh

[Noumi]

But why is this important again?

[Lapin]

Why do you need one certain someone of the opposite sex? What, did homosexual, polygamous, etc. relationships suddenly become invalid?

And for the record, no, I do not believe that there is only one person just right for you in a world of a few billion people.

(What about people who just aren't all that interested in a romantic relationship at all?)

Oh, and it is spelled "hippie".

[Rotting Corpse]

Maybe there is a right one.But how will you know when you actually meet him/her? Or it could just be all in our head, just a Way to ease the pain.I mean,loneliness,it hurts so much....

[Hopeless_Joe]

just remember, a ring can't plug a hole...

[Underwater Ophelia]

Originally Posted by Hopeless_Joe

just remember, a ring can't plug a hole...

I like that. I like that a lot.

[Crying_Crimson_Tears]

Originally Posted by Lapin

Oh, and it is spelled "hippie".

I hope you're joking.

Because it is spelt hippy.

[Methadrine]

Originally Posted by Crying_Crimson_Tears

I hope you're joking.

Because it is spelt hippy.

*slaps CCT in the back of her head*

No, it's not.

Although, you can spell it like that, but it's not the common usage.

[Draconysius]

I think there can be several "right ones" in terms of who you can get along with for the rest of your life. It's still near impossible to find them. Even if you did, chances are they're already taken...

[Noumi]

I actually don´t care, but I don´t think there´s a right one. It´s not a secret we´re all different and it doesn´t matter if you find someone with the same interests .That person will sooner or later make you feel dissappointed. Not saying you´ll never find true love, you will, but it´s not going to be perfect.

[Lapin]

Originally Posted by Crying_Crimson_Tears

I hope you're joking.

Because it is spelt hippy.

No, I'm not.

You're a twit. Read a history book on the sixties sometime.

[Hopeless_Joe]

i know i'm a noob here, but erm...actually, they're both correct. according to dictionary d o t c o m (ugh, see, still the noob here),

American Heritage Dictionary hip·pie also hip·py (hĭp'ē) Pronunciation Key
n. pl. hip·pies

although, with wikipedia, if you search hippy it comes up as hippie.



never trust a hippy/hippie

[Crying_Crimson_Tears]

Originally Posted by Methadrine

*slaps CCT in the back of her head*

No, it's not.

Although, you can spell it like that, but it's not the common usage.

*Holds Head*

That's how I was taught to spell it.

And all textbooks I read Lapin have the spelling of hippy. Hippies is the plural. That's how it's spelt in the dictionary too.

[Hopeless_Joe]

back on topic, i've thought that i've found 'the one' before. wow, how naive i was. the first....well....you always remember your first....mine was 4 years. in that time, i squandered every good opportunity i had. i basically pissed it all away, and i had no idea i was doing it. had i known then what i know now...*sigh* hindsight is 20/20.

the 2nd, was an attempt at getting over the first, and i didn't realize that til many years later. lasted 2 years. the first year, i essentially wanted out, the second year, i wanted to stay. by then, she wanted out. the years that followed were spent trying to torment each other. now, 5 years later, we're actually friends.

the 3rd, and most recent, ended over a year ago. and it was odd when it did, as is the way it happened. when it did, i wasn't surprised, nor too broken up about it. well, i was, but only briefly, like a couple weeks. we were together 2 years as well, and when she left, she left me for my best friend of 12 years. that's what killed me, and still kinda hurts at times. now they're married, and expecting a baby. i'm happy for them, but at the same time, i wouldn't piss on them if they were on fire.

so, as far as there being 'the one' for everybody, sure there is. but it isn't just one. as was said before, in a world of billions of people, there's no way there could only be one. sure, marriage and all that...but what is that other than just another relationship, bound by law & a ring? and look at divorce rates, and even further than that, look at the rates of people getting re-married once, twice, eleventy times.

[Crying_Crimson_Tears]

Oh and thank you Hopeless. At least now we know how to spell it or whatever.

[HumanePain]

I have thought several times I had found the right one. There have been three women in my life with who I believe I would have been happy for life regardless of which one of the three I married. As it turned out, all but the last one turned down my marriage proposal, but I know I would have considered any of the three the right one. I think this is a common occurrence based on the fact that a significant number of people marry more than once in their lifetimes.


Now that I am married, there is only one "Right One".

[Crying_Crimson_Tears]

I believe there is only one right one for you. You may find more than one per se but circumstances may separate you. Therefore, they're not the right one.

[Apathy's_Child]

I sdon't believe there's a right one. There are just some people who piss us off in ways we can't tolerate well enough to be in a relationship with them, and if they have qualities that are important to us in a bf or gf, then cool, sign me up. Looking at it this way is better, because it leaves more potential prospect, but looking for "the one" can cause you to throw away good chances just because they aren't completely perfect. Face it, in life, what is?

[Lapin]

Originally Posted by Crying_Crimson_Tears

*Holds Head*

That's how I was taught to spell it.

And all textbooks I read Lapin have the spelling of hippy. Hippies is the plural. That's how it's spelt in the dictionary too.

It is not. (Flips through U.S. History book) (Holds up) Right there!

(Realizes you can't see it)

...

Maybe it depends on the area?

[Crying_Crimson_Tears]

I've grown up in Vermont where Hippy was always spelt with a Y.

But I'll spell it right from now on.

[AngelikDemonik]

I'd like to think that there is a "right one". I'm a hard one to get along well with, though =)

[badteccy]

Originally Posted by Crying_Crimson_Tears

I hope you're joking.

Because it is spelt hippy.

I hope YOU'RE joking...jesus christ.

[Wormboy]

There is no such thing as a right one. They aren't just born perfect for you. Someone becomes perfect because you grow to love everything about them, not because they grew up with everything you love. Everyone CAN have someone, but it doesn't mean they will.

[badteccy]

Oh yes. I don't believe in that whole "the one" thing.
I think that whole mentallity is terribly childish.

[ArielDevaki]

I dont believe in the right one either, but I do believe in the
"most compatible".

I have no clue what people are trying to find these days, are they just trying to find some dirt to put into a hole? or are they trying to find a brain to mess with?