I Hate Being Used!!!

twisted_one · 12-05-2007, 11:48 AM

I hate guys that think that they can play with your emotions and get away with it...they can lead you on then say fuck you the next day....i hate guys that think that if they dont get what they want they feel that they are strong enough to force you......I hate guys....and im sick and tired of being used.....

Mon Coeur Noir · 12-05-2007, 12:02 PM

*shrug* Not all guys are like that. Mine isn't. That doesn't mean I didn't run into a steady stream of jerks. It just helped me learn how to spot them easier.

bleedingheart344 · 12-05-2007, 12:03 PM

You live and you learn.

Wormboy · 12-05-2007, 01:40 PM

Well hopefully anyway ^_^.

An Eccentric Cellist · 12-05-2007, 02:12 PM

Be more picky and question motives, constantly, and it'll keep the icky ones away. They'll feel awkward and stay away.

Make them earn your respect, in however that may occur. In my opinion, the guy that'll treat you well will want to have your respect.

Never let a guy pressure you or try to force you into doing something. Just leave. You don't have to say anything, just leave.
I've done it. I've gotten up and told the people that I arrived with that, "I'm going home," and walked out the front door no worse for wear.
Also always be somewhere where you retain control. Always! No matter what!

Anyway I hope you feel better, dearie. A lot of guys are jackasses but there are some nice ones... I think. But don't let whatever is going on affect you, I'm sure you're better than that.

Noumi · 12-05-2007, 02:28 PM

Sooooo, been there When I was 15, I met a 24 year old guy that made m feel like shit cuz I wouldn't let him get my pants.... why do theese things have to happen!

ApothoKeri · 12-05-2007, 02:45 PM

Never associate with dumbasses and life is more pleasant.

Post Modern Girl · 12-06-2007, 04:41 AM

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Originally Posted by An Eccentric Cellist

Be more picky and question motives, constantly, and it'll keep the icky ones away. They'll feel awkward and stay away.

But will all that constant questioning not just scare away every guy??

twisted_one · 12-06-2007, 12:16 PM

This guy is a little different and I'm just sugar coating that....There has to be some psychology in this or something cause sometimes I don't know why I'm back with him....he through my stuff out his window at midnight because I wasn't white...BEACUSE I WASN'T WHITE!!! and this was in the past but I still remember it and it pisses me off when I look at him...like he would through rice at my face (cause i'm asian) and he would call me a "rice n***er" and that stuff hurt my feelings. And we had a bad habbit of putting hands on each other that I ended up giving him a bloody nose and a busted lip....any advice on this?

Breathless Horror · 12-06-2007, 12:18 PM

Um...how about NOT going out with him? That might be a good place to start.

Delkaetre · 12-06-2007, 12:19 PM

If there's racism issues and abuse, try getting the fuck away from him.
You do not give people like that a second chance. Just get away.

Methadrine · 12-06-2007, 12:22 PM

Any advice? Yes, run like hell, and call the police if he ever lays hands on you again.

Post Modern Girl · 12-07-2007, 03:51 AM

see this boy just sounds like a cock. Leave.

Drake Dun · 12-07-2007, 04:41 AM

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Originally Posted by ApothoKeri

Never associate with dumbasses and life is more pleasant.

And it really is that simple, people.

Personally, I don't have a whole lot of sympathy for women who go from one abusive relationship to the next. Once or twice, okay. Three times... four times. Anybody can screw up, or just get unlucky. Even repeatedly. But if it's happening again and again and again and again, while you are concious of it, something is wrong with you. Face it.

You don't get to leave the nice guys in the cold and gravitate toward assholes, and then be surprised when they turn out to be... assholes. You need to rethink your preferences, or just take the leap and abdicate your self respect entirely, becoming one of these pathetic creatures who is bizarrely proud of the fact that her man hits her.

Drake

TopHaggardDoll · 12-07-2007, 05:08 AM

Leave him and get a restraining order.

How can you stay with this man!? As soon as my ex hit me (this was 3 years ago, I was 15)....I told him to fuck off, I called the police, he was arrested and was told he couldn't come anywhere near me or his arse would be thrown in jail.
You don't have to put up with this shit. Yes, it's scary, I know.
But your life will be better without him.

drewsilla · 12-07-2007, 09:00 AM

I agree with everything everyone has posted.

Nobody, anywhere at any time, has the right to treat you like shit. Would you want a friend, sibling or cousin to be treated like this? I bet you wouldn't, so why put up with it yourself?

I'm betting that you and this guy once had some good times together. That is what I'm also betting is keeping you going back. You are in love with the memory of him, not the current person he is. Don't play the "If I only act this way he will change and be the guy I want him to be" game. It will be a game you loose. It sounds like you've lost it too many times before.

I'm sure you've heard this before, but you are still young. There is plenty of time to be in a relationship. Don't let anyone tell you that if you are not in one there must be something wrong with you. Have a boyfriend/girlfriend does not define you as a person. It is the actions of your life that define you.

I just hope that you find the strength inside yourself to make a clean break from this asshole. Be strong!!!!

killer_asian_Dax · 12-07-2007, 09:15 AM

Did you ever think that maybe there's something wrong with YOU? It's obvious this person's a creep. But you keep going back. I think you're the one with the problem in this case. I don't feel sorry for you. You have control over this situation whether you realize it or not. Instead of playing the victim and screaming over it, do something about it. Like, (oh I don't know....) walk away?!

GothicChristian · 12-07-2007, 09:21 AM

I don't like romantic relationships, in fact, I hate them with the white hot intensity of a thousand suns. I have a severe case of bad luck when it comes to all members of the male population; it's like I have "Welcome" written on my forehead in all caps. They all think they can walk all over m. I am not a doormat!