Rant Thread

[Underwater Ophelia]

Originally Posted by raggedyanne

Automatic Spell Check. Without it, I fail . . . . miserably.

So what do I do? My boyfriend's stalker-like ex-hookup that lives in Virginia is coming to visit? She was going to "come hang out" with him anyway, and a much as I enjoy seeing him panic and get all wierded out, I do not want her anywhere near him without supervision.

If you can't trust him with her, you can't trust him at all.
Be with someone better than that.

[HumanePain]

Originally Posted by Miss Cogs

I don't think it's smut either.
But if someone thinks it is, then maybe many more can look at it that way as well...
I don't know...
I just deleted everything off my dA.
So it doesn't really matter, I guess.
Ignore my post...

It was not even remotely pornographic to me, BUT there are people who become aroused at the sight of women's shoes. As Dr. Ruth says, "Sex is in the brain."

[MollyMac]

Especially if you flunked anatomy

[HumanePain]

I have come to dread holidays, because that is when my grandson's father gets the most drunk. He already has a fat lip from getting in a drunken fight with someone last night. He loves Dane but of course his judgment goes out the window when he drinks the way he does. Crap.

[Jaye Jang]

Dear HP,

I can relate, except it is my daughter's grandfather who is wrecking the Holiday for the whole family today. At least you can put one positive spin on it. Your grandson has a great grandfather -- pun intended.

[HumanePain]

Originally Posted by Jaye Jang

Dear HP,

I can relate, except it is my daughter's grandfather who is wrecking the Holiday for the whole family today. At least you can put one positive spin on it. Your grandson has a great grandfather -- pun intended.

Thanks Jaye. I just called my daughter to see if everything is ok and so far...knock on wood...it is.

[Splintered]

That's it.

I can't hide it anymore.

I can't lie anymore.

I'm fucking lost.

I have no fucking direction in my life.

My girlfriend is miserable with me, and I want her to be happy, but I don't fucking know how to make her happy. I wan to be with her so much, but I don't know how to make her happy.

I'm not fucking good at anything I do anymore. Anything. I've lost all of my abilities I had with computers, I've lost all of my ability to code, I've lost all of my ability to focus. I've gained more weight, I've let my body atrophy.

I can't think. I'm hitting a fucking brick wall whenever I fucking try to think. Even when things seem to be going so fucking good, everything just drops.

I'm lost, I need help, I need direction, and I don't know what to do.

[HumanePain]

Obviously you have hit a low point Splintered, but try to think of it this way: highs and lows are natural, but yeah, it sucks to be at the bottom of the sine wave.

I think the stress from you two worrying about the pregnancy is part of what is straining the relationship. Don't just think of making her happy, think of making yourself happy too. But also remember that she needs her space after what she went through. If you try to bring her through it too soon, it will make things worse. Leave her alone and don't try to "fix her".

Regarding the rest of your issues, hitting the "brick wall", what *is* the brick wall? In other words when you try to focus, and something is disrupting your focus, what is it you start thinking about? That is what you must address in order to get your focus back.

For now, try not to think about such long term things as "direction", when in this mood it is best to just try and live one day at a time.

PM me if you want to talk more. Sorry if this isn't helpful.

[Splintered]

The brick wall is...

I'm hitting it trying to describe it, if that makes sense. I can't speak very well, so if I don't make sense, it's the fucking wall.

It's like.... If you've been a maze.

You're heading down a long, long, long, long part of the maze. You've dedicated all of your energy energy, and you think you're on the right course. Then you make a turn, and boom, there's a brick wall, and you have to turn completely around. Instead of starting at square 1, you start at square -50.

I'm tired of this. I've written so many rants lately about the latest shit I've had to go through. I'm tired of going through shit. I'm tired of worrying about money, I'm tired of worrying about the relationship, I'm tired of worry about where I'm going to sleep next. I'm tired of college, I'm tired of high school, I'm tired of being told that every career path I consider is out of my reach.

I'm tired of lying to myself that everything is alright.

If I don't respond for a week, it's because I've gone for a long ass walk.

[HumanePain]

Originally Posted by Splintered

If I don't respond for a week, it's because I've gone for a long ass walk.

Actually a break is what you need. A mini-vacation. Do something for yourself, even if it is just sleeping late one morning. Your body is telling you it needs to escape.

[Jaye Jang]

Thanks HP. I'm going through some major upheavals myself. I thought, being an old fogey, that nothing could faze me, but I can totally relate to Splintered. Major upheavals in your life can make you feel like you've hit a wall. Sometimes it's just being slammed from so many directions you get overwhelmed. The mini-vacation thing is a good idea. Next time I oversleep I won't feel so guilty. Sometimes just getting a second opinion helps, too.

[raggedyanne]

Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

If you can't trust him with her, you can't trust him at all.
Be with someone better than that.

It's not that I can't trust him with her, it's that I can't trust her with him. She's crazy!

[Clockwork]

I wish I could contribute more to this thread, but sadly it won't fit with the flow of the post.

I also want to just let this go, but I don't want my reputation being poisoned either. It makes life more annoying than it should be. So I ought to clear up a misconception:

Originally Posted by Miss Cogs

How dare you call my art smut!
How dare you.

I had never told her that her work was pornographic. I respectfully expressed to her that I was uncomfortable with the picture she posted online, because I couldn't even tell she was wearing anything. She reacted negatively and it became an argument, and eventually she was saying that I was calling it porn.

While I deserve this to be known, I will still admit to being old-fashioned and not appreciating people looking at what appears to be my naked girlfriend - artistically, dirtily - I think I'd be cool with medically.

Try an experiment yourself. Ask any dude on the street if you can see almost nude pictures of his girlfriend, and see if he doesn't sock you in the eye.
It doesn't really work.

Originally Posted by Ophelia

He doesn't want people to look at you sexually.
So that isn't why, it's because he's selfish and insecure.

I need to rectify this.
I understand and accept that people will look at her sexually. She's very beautiful, and it is unavoidable. That's life, and that's cool.
Now that'll happen out in real life, but the pictures were a step too far.
I mean I'd have appreciated even being asked for my opinion before they were posted.

Although you do have a point, that if I'm so uptight, she might consider leaving. Perhaps she needs someone more liberal, and I need someone less loose.


Now that I've squashed out every reason to continue this debate into our personal affairs, I'll ask that everyone lay off it. Mind your own business, hit the road.

[gothicusmaximus]

Wait, hold on, so am I allowed to masturbate to that picture or not?

[Clockwork]

Originally Posted by gothicusmaximus

Wait, hold on, so am I allowed to masturbate to that picture or not?

Well, as soon as you learn how...
No. Cunt.

You can do this, though.

[HumanePain]

Originally Posted by Clockwork

Well, as soon as you learn how...
No. Cunt.

You can do this, though.

I have been traumatized!

[Lapin]

The picture wasn't pornagraphic. It wasn't sexual in the slightest.

Frankly, the idea that she needs your approval to post pictures on her DA of her own body is a bit arrogant.

[Underwater Ophelia]

Originally Posted by raggedyanne

It's not that I can't trust him with her, it's that I can't trust her with him. She's crazy!

If she gets naked and throws herself at him, he should be able to walk away.

It shouldn't matter what she does to him.

[Underwater Ophelia]

Originally Posted by Clockwork

Mind your own business, hit the road.

Hey asshole, don't put your personal business on the internet WHERE THE ENTIRE PLANET can see it if you don't want comments.

[Underwater Ophelia]

PS--Clockwork, did you seriously say she needs to ask you before putting her art online?

Fuck you.
That's not being "old-fashioned," it's being straight up emotionally abusive and controlling.

[Lapin]

(Nods)
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[Clockwork]

Lapin, Ophelia - I said, end of story. This topic is not your business and it is no longer up for debate. Any more of this, and I'm going to bring an issue about harrasment to the admin.

[Underwater Ophelia]

Originally Posted by Clockwork

Lapin, Ophelia - I said, end of story. This topic is not your business and it is no longer up for debate. Any more of this, and I'm going to bring an issue about harrasment to the admin.

Once again, you posted it.
You learned a good lesson here, don't put shit out in the open if you don't want it out in the open.

Also, you can contact the admins about harassment all you like. Don't forget to mention the PMs you sent me insulting me for no reason.

[Underwater Ophelia]

PS--You're just upset because now everyone sees what a dick you are and hopefully your girlfriend is realizing she deserves better than you.

[Clockwork]

Fuck it, I've made my stand. I'm telling on you.