Dating an older person, socially attceptable or not?

[Duane]

Originally Posted by angel_dark_demon_bright

Is it or is it not socially attceptable to date someone older than you? For a woman to date an older man it would seem so, but vice versa?

This is the 21st century but not everything about society has changed. People agree and disagree on this kind of matter 50/50.

Im 18 and my girlfriend is 22. The age differance doesn't matter or concern either of us. But ive had people say to us both that they dont agree with us being together. They dont think it is right that i am dating someone older than I. In the five months we've been together only one person has said that we make a good couple and should be together.

Times change but it seems people's views on this subject dont. In todays world you dont usually hear about something like this happening.

(This isnt whining or a cry for relationship help, Im just looking to start a discussion)

Dude, you're dating a college chick?*Gets down on his knees, and bows to ADDB* I'M NOT WORTHY!!!

[Opteron_Man]

Hey why not? As long as their not ugly.

[biohazard]

Who cares if it is socially acceptable or not? If both people in the relationship are happy with it, age should not matter. Age should only be an issue if it goes against the law, such as an underage dating a 30 year-old. I believe there is a limit to age differences, since I would never go over 10 years, but there may be happy relationships in which that is the case. But back to my initial point- As long as both are happy, it doesn´t matter weather its socially acceptable or not.
There is this girl I know that is 19 and her boyfriend is well over 30, and they seem very happy, although they get criticized a lot. But as long as they are happy, they shouldn´t care what other assholes say, after all, its not they`re relationship.

[Underwater Ophelia]

Originally Posted by Opteron_Man

Hey why not? As long as their not ugly.

I guess stupid is acceptable, though.

[raggedyanne]

My boyfriend is two years older than me and most people don't see a problem with it. I think that as long as the there isn't an issue of legality, a person should be able to date whoever they want, as long as it's for love and not money or something equally stupid.

[LaBelleDameSansMerci]

Originally Posted by Ravenmother

I thought that for a while... but then I realized that there just wasn't that many men that could handle me... I'm sure you are a great girlfriend you just got to find that right guy worth your time.

Nah, I'm one of those nutters who pushes people away and then gets surprised and upset when they try to leave.

[Pantherlette086]

I'm 21 and am married to a 35 y/o. I'm more mature than he is most of the time. He loves going to shows, although can't handle going out Friday and Saturday night like I do. We don't have a major problems. I do have 3 stepkids though. O_o

[blackwater1110]

Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

I guess stupid is acceptable, though.

<3

Has anyone here seen Harold and Maude? There was a love between Harold, who was a teenager, and Maude, who was almost 50. I didn't revile this cinematographic depiction of age difference between lovers in the slightest. This is probably because to me, we're all just points of consciousness, surrounded by matter, floating in a void, and it's the connection of consciousness that matters, not the matter in which I'm conscious

[Wormboy]

This is how it works
http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/dating_pools.png

so apparently, the formula for lowest age possible is (your age/2) + 7
Well then for maximum age, we should reverse said formula to be
2(your age) - 7.

In all seriousness, date who makes you happy.

The formulas gives a reasonable idea of what is loosely reasonable and what you should think VERY hard about. This formula system only works, however for people above about eighteen and under about fifty, because if you go beyond those extremes, the numbers become a bit odd and might not work. In fact, I would suggest thinking very hard if you even come close to either extreme for your date-able age range.
Example:
a 10 year old, a 15 year old, a 20 year old, a 24 year old, a 30 year old, a 35 year old, a 40 year old, a 45 year old, and a 50 year old (To give you a proportion range)
Along with the ages of 16, 18, 21, and 23 (For common age on this board, just a rough estimate)

Age ~ Dating Range

10 ~ 12 - 13
15 ~ 14.5 - 23
16 ~ 15 - 25
18 ~ 16 - 29
20 ~ 17 - 33
25 ~ 19.5 - 43
30 ~ 22 - 53
35 ~ 24.5 - 63
40 ~ 27 - 73
45 ~ 29.5 - 83
50 ~ 32 - 93

As you can see, the extremes of each date-able age range tend to be a bit questionable for each respective age to say the very least. While I do not think there is a problem with a 25 year old dating a 40 year old, society might give you looks. Date who makes you happy first and foremost.

[drewsilla]

I'm married to a man 7 years younger than myself. When we got together he was 17 and I was 24. When we were together our ages didn't matter. Yeah, some people said some things when we first got together, but we didn't care. You will find that people will talk no matter what goes on. If you are happy in your relationship and truely love the one you are with then people yapping at you will not affect you.

I've been married almost 8 years, and we have a little boy together. Younger men rock!!

[The_Eye]

That´s it f#$k other people only thing that maters is that you feel good in you relationship.People who coment are suckers who got nothing else to do.Ignorance is a best friend sometimes don´t u agree?Good luck.

[DeathToLems]

My boyfriend is a few months younger then me and its the best relationship i've ever been in. we are already talking about getting married and getting our own place together. (been together 2 years and still running)

I had also been with a guy who was 3 years older then me and it was the worst relationship ever! (together about 5 years and it was hell from the biginning)

When I was about 17 I went out with a boy who was 15. It was so rubbish. We were both young and nothing even happend. We hardly even spoke. I dont know how we even desided to go out with each other. S'pose he said yes cos I was an older chick. lol

[Tam Li Hua]

18 and 22? I don't see what you're worried about; you're both very young and very legal.

Now if it was 17 and 22, maybe I'd be worried, or possibly even if it was something like 18 and 45; that might be a little weird...but still legal.

If you two are happy together, then I don't think there's anything to worry about.

[GratefulGrunger]

My boyfriend is 21.

6 years difference.

My friends accept that, everyone else fuck off XD

[badteccy]

Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

I guess stupid is acceptable, though.

I'm pretty sure that was sarcasm.

[Underwater Ophelia]

Originally Posted by badteccy

I'm pretty sure that was sarcasm.

I'm pretty sure you didn't get the point of what I said at all.
Read his comment again, utilizing the skills you've learned in English class.

And next time, don't sass me.

[Stormtrooper of Death]

*cues whipping noise soundfx*

[ForgetThisLostLenore]

My only relationship was 1 year and 3 months. The guy was 2 years older than me, but probably around the same level mentally. Except he had this weird thing with never, ever wanting to work. He felt that, when we actually got married and had kids, I'd be the one who'd go to work. because I like it. Eventually I got incredibly annoyed with his entire attitude with everything, and I broke up with him. That was a month ago, lol.

At the time we started going out, he seemed just so mature because he wasn't one of these stupid freshman guys bouncing around like retarded monkeys and screaming about sex. I believe that I grew up a little in that year, and he never did. Oh, and I'm a psychotic soul-eater.

[Stormtrooper of Death]

Hey, your relationship lasted longer than mine. I'm glad I had music to turn to or else I'd be dead now.

[Mir]

Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

I'm pretty sure you didn't get the point of what I said at all.
Read his comment again, utilizing the skills you've learned in English class.

And next time, don't sass me.

They are =/= their?

I get the gist of it though, and my problem with it is mostly the 'ugly' part.

[badteccy]

Originally Posted by Underwater Ophelia

And next time, don't sass me.

I sure hope you are joking about that.

[Underwater Ophelia]

Originally Posted by Mir

They are =/= their?

Nope. They're.

[Mir]

Yep. Hence the =/= (not equals to) sign there.

[Underwater Ophelia]

...right.
Brain failure, ahaha.

[Lapin]

Ophelia! (Moves to hug you; backs off at snarly expression) When did you get back?