Rant Thread II - Page 281

Spooky Spencer · 02-13-2012, 08:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Saya

77. I'm thinking this means its probably going to be the end, and not sure how to go about things. Maybe he'll want to make up before he goes? But I don't know how to go about it.

You can always just let him know you're there to talk, then wait for him to make the first move. If it's something that can't wait that long, YOU make the first move and be ready for the fallout, whatever it is. It's really all you can do.

Apathy's_Child · 02-15-2012, 02:05 AM

Thanks Cuckoo & Acharis.

Saya - I'd say do whatever you can to facilitate any kind of reconciliation you can. I wouldn't usually give that kind of advice for a situation that doesn't directly involve you, but there's a death involved and that whole !It's the things you DIDN'T do that you'll regret the most" thing is so very fucking true. My personal take is that your mom should TOTALLY call your aunt; unwanted interferance is a lot less upsetting & more easily forgotten afterwards than a death that takes away your chance to EVER make that shit right. But that's just my take on it, without knowing the people involved at all... anyway, I'm sorry to hear about your grandpa.

MissCheyenne · 02-15-2012, 02:10 AM

I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandad Saya

If I can do anything, I'm around.

CuckooTuli · 02-15-2012, 06:49 AM

Yeah, same. Hope everyone in the family who does know is doing okay; and the man himself, of course.

Acharis · 02-15-2012, 07:48 AM

Sorry to hear about your grandpa Saya.

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Originally Posted by Spooky Spencer

You can always just let him know you're there to talk, then wait for him to make the first move. If it's something that can't wait that long, YOU make the first move and be ready for the fallout, whatever it is. It's really all you can do.

Yeah, maybe just let all the family know and let your grandfather know the door's open if he wants to talk? Family drama sucks but here's hoping that everyone sets the petty stuff aside for this.

Saya · 02-15-2012, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Apathy's_Child

Thanks Cuckoo & Acharis.

Saya - I'd say do whatever you can to facilitate any kind of reconciliation you can. I wouldn't usually give that kind of advice for a situation that doesn't directly involve you, but there's a death involved and that whole !It's the things you DIDN'T do that you'll regret the most" thing is so very fucking true. My personal take is that your mom should TOTALLY call your aunt; unwanted interferance is a lot less upsetting & more easily forgotten afterwards than a death that takes away your chance to EVER make that shit right. But that's just my take on it, without knowing the people involved at all... anyway, I'm sorry to hear about your grandpa.

Thanks dude. I forgot to tell you guys that mom did end up calling my aunt, and they did know. She said that he's as crotchety as ever, is pissed that they can't drop everything and visit right away, but he's also telling them that its nothing serious. I have my suspicions about that, since its stage 3 and he's 77 years old, but as far as he's telling everyone its not a huge deal.

We haven't spoken in like, ten years because he and my nan are very old fashion and don't think divorce is right, so when my mom asked for a divorce obviously that made her a terrible person and my sister and I were also terrible for sticking up for her (my brother was too young and we tried to leave him out of it as much as possible.) So I'd feel very awkward barging back into his life just because I think he might die, but I am going out for coffee with my dad soon and I'll see how that goes, if dad says he wants to see me I'll go, but I don't think I should uninvited.

Solumina · 02-15-2012, 04:33 PM

Maybe send a card to your grandparents offering your support. It doesn't bring up the same kind of tensions as a visit or even a phone call would but it does at least let them know that you do care and presents an opportunity if they do want to reconcile but are holding out because they are stubborn or don't think that you want anything to do with them.

Saya · 02-15-2012, 04:59 PM

I'd say that's a good idea but my grandparents are kinda irrational. My nan cut off her best friends twenty six years ago after being invited to a baby shower were gifts were optional, but she decided that even though she wasn't the only one, some people giving gifts made her look terrible and they should have told her to bring a gift.

Soooo I'm a little nervous about sending a card and them making a fuss about how I only sent a card.

Solumina · 02-15-2012, 08:36 PM

I see, that is a little odd and does put you in a tough spot.

Spooky Spencer · 02-15-2012, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Saya

Soooo I'm a little nervous about sending a card and them making a fuss about how I only sent a card.

What if it was a really expensive card...?

Acharis · 02-15-2012, 11:47 PM

Yikes! Maybe if you're worried you could send a small bouquet with the card?

But really... if they're going to choose to focus on something so petty and irrational in the face of such an important thing, then that's on them. The best you can do is just offer the chance to talk again and hope everyone drops the prima donna act.

CuckooTuli · 02-16-2012, 01:35 AM

Man, they sound crazy. I take it a phone would just be too awkward/potentially volatile?...

Valhalla · 02-16-2012, 11:18 AM

The card idea seemed like a good one until I read your last post, Saya. If your grandparents can be that strange, I'm not sure what kind of advice to offer.

You could ask your dad to pass on the message for you? Then you wouldn't have sent anything, so no pressure for a gift.

MissCheyenne · 02-16-2012, 01:13 PM

A 26 year old woman murdered a 13 year old girl in my town this week. It's so fucking senseless and tragic.

Fruitbat · 02-21-2012, 07:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Saya

I'd say that's a good idea but my grandparents are kinda irrational. My nan cut off her best friends twenty six years ago after being invited to a baby shower were gifts were optional, but she decided that even though she wasn't the only one, some people giving gifts made her look terrible and they should have told her to bring a gift.

Soooo I'm a little nervous about sending a card and them making a fuss about how I only sent a card.

sorry to hear about your grandpa.

If you send a card and they make a fuss, then they are the daft ones. At least you showed you were thinking of them.

MissC - WTF?

I just came in here to say: FUCKIT! FUCKIT blue and pink and purple. FUCKIT!

Solumina · 02-22-2012, 12:11 AM

I made the mistake of rubbing my eyes because they itched and now there is green eyeshadow and gold glitter all over my face and it really doesn't want to come off. On the plus side it did say perfectly in place for a whole night of crazy dancing.

Jaye Jang · 02-22-2012, 09:09 AM

I had the flu on my birthday, so everything had to be cancelled. Total bummer.

Renatus · 02-22-2012, 07:21 PM

Ugh encountered a gay hating bigot in a game today that associated accepting homosexuality with accepting nambla.

in.the.moon · 02-23-2012, 03:20 PM

So much for a good day. :/

Why is it that there is ALWAYS something that has to go wrong!

Solumina · 02-23-2012, 05:13 PM

You're mad at me because I don't know what museum you're talking about when all you can tell me is that it is "somewhere around here" and that it has a big parking lot. You don't seem to realize that there are more than a dozen well known museums within about ten minutes, to say nothing about the ones in the surrounding area. Oh okay you think it had art, that doesn't help, if anything it makes the list longer as there are tons of art galleries around here that I didn't even consider when you said museum.

Renatus · 02-23-2012, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Solumina

You're mad at me because I don't know what museum you're talking about when all you can tell me is that it is "somewhere around here" and that it has a big parking lot. You don't seem to realize that there are more than a dozen well known museums within about ten minutes, to say nothing about the ones in the surrounding area. Oh okay you think it had art, that doesn't help, if anything it makes the list longer as there are tons of art galleries around here that I didn't even consider when you said museum.

This is for you http://notalwaysright.com/17004/17004 Hope it helps at least a little.

Solumina · 02-24-2012, 12:43 PM

Fuck burnout and fuck apathy, I cannot wait until June when I'll be out of this place and actually do something.

Renatus · 02-24-2012, 06:22 PM

Grr my fucking msn messenger isn't working, as if I'm not enough of a damn hermit as it is. It seems that it may have been a significant amount of time that the messenger has appeared to work normally while not working at all. Why do I even bother trying to talk to people.

Murder.Of.Crows · 02-24-2012, 06:30 PM

Sooo tired. Spent all my energy dancing in front of my computer listening to The Faint. Now I'm about to pass out on the keyboard.

Versus · 02-24-2012, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Murder.Of.Crows

Sooo tired. Spent all my energy dancing in front of my computer listening to The Faint. Now I'm about to pass out on the keyboard.

Snap into a slim jim.

Also. Pictures or it didn't happen.