Rant Thread II

[Miss Absynthe]

I have a list of my meds typed up, with the dates that I started and stopped them. I also have my medical history written up - it isn't long or detailed, but it's amazing how things get misconstrued between telling it to a doctor and then someone writing it down in their notes.

[Fruitbat]

Originally Posted by Miss Absynthe

It's not quite that cut and dried..

If someone in IT fucks up then a piece of code doesn't work and things get delayed until they're fixed. If I fuck up at the book shop then someone doesn't get their text book on time because it's been posted to the wrong address.

If a doctor fucks up then someone gets sick, or dead.

They are humans and they make the same amount of mistakes that we do. They are also often working under ridiculous amounts of pressure and in difficult circumstances, which increase the likelihood of mistakes.

They are also working with people who are under the impression that they are gods and therefore don't ask questions or query their thought processes, because of course a doctor would be telling them the right thing.

Basically - whatever a doctor tells you, ask them why. Ask them to explain the thinking behind their decisions. Ask them to tell you what medications are, why you should take them, what they will do, what the side-effects and interactions are.. and importantly - ask them for the things you should look for that will mean there is something going wrong, and the things that you should look for that will mean the medication is working. Always ask them when you should go back for follow up.

It's also helpful to go to the doctor with a list of questions written down so that you can ensure that each of them get answered to your satisfaction.

It's your body, remind them of that.. especially when they are trying to rush you out the door or fob you off without explaining things to you - "I understand that you are in a hurry, doctor.. but this is MY body that you are treating, and I have the right to know what is happening and to know what you are doing because this is MY body. I have agency over MY body, and I am paying you to help ME the same way that I pay a mechanic to fix my car... so kindly answer my questions now."

I agree with what you said too, but I've spoken to a lot of people, seen a lot of doctors in my time, experienced the good and the not so good. yes some people see them as Gods, and take their word as the gospel truth, but there are others who just are lazy, and who have their vision coloured by their previous experiences with patients (it's the way of medicine). Because it's human nature to be lazy, and allow our previous experiences to dictate our responses to current problems.

And I've seen it in all professions, it's just the way things are, and as a patient you have to be aware of this, ask questions and get a second or twenty second opinion until you get your issue resolved.

**My rant**

I got stung by a scorpion. Little fucker. Hurt like a bee sting, but for 2 hours.

[Versus]

I am stationed in Skyrim.

[mindless1]

My ex gay friend stole my ex boyfriend & then rubbed it in my face like I cared.

[Saya]

My campus is being plied with fliers looking for young girls to work at an adult massage parlour, where "wealthy older gentleman" will pay to get a massage when you're nude, or wearing lingerie, their preference, and they can also pay to massage you.

There's a lot of sex worker shaming involved in talking about it, like some of the focus is on what kind of women would respond to that ad, but honestly this is my big problem with the sex industry; exploitation of the poor and few worker rights.

[Solumina]

And of course people focus on asking what kind of woman would work there, not what kind of man would go to such a place so the shame falls squarely on the women.

On a somewhat related note I was looking thought the local paper and found that there is a monthly size 8 and under speed dating event in the area. The size restriction is enforced at the door, they will even check clothing tags if someone looks like they may be too large but of course there is no size restriction for the men, just women. Nice double standard. Oh and the ad mentioned that it was a place where "wealthy men can meet the kind of women they're really looking for". Ick.

[Saya]

>.< Why do you hurt my soul?

Aaaaargh now there's racists on facebook. Defending being stupid rude and racist towards aboriginal because clearly its their fault the caribou are dying out and not ours. Sometimes I'm tempted to delete it.

[Solumina]

Well since I already hurt your soul I may as well twist the knife. I complained about it on the community message board I recently joined and within 15 minutes I had 9 comments about how I was just upset because I was an ugly, worthless fatty and I wouldn't be allowed to go. Because obviously it is completely impossible for someone who did meet the standard or who had no need for such an event to be bothered by it. Oh and a lot of crap about how there is nothing wrong with guys wanting a healthy partner and how being overweight is unhealthy, cuz you know a size 10 can't be healthy and it is totally not a double standard for the women to have to be small but the dudes can be super morbidly obese, plus the fact that nothing in the ad mentions that the event is geared towards health and fitness (and there are plenty of speed dating and singles events for athletic people in the area).

[Saya]

I know right? I'm thin and it bugs the hell out of me. Last week I was going through clothes we put aside if we think they're boutique items and can price them higher than other clothes, and there's even a label of jeans called "Rich and Skinny." It is indeed one of those things I could mark up but oh god I was happier before I knew of their existence.

There's such a double, triple think that goes on with various -isms, isn't there? I read an article last night on the emergence of Strippercise and memoirs of strippers and pole dancing classes and such, and yet even though that is considered empowering and fun, there's a huge divorce from actually stripping for labour. Its fine if its in the confines of monogamous marriage and heterosexuality, and as long as you aren't getting paid. Thinness likewise is touted as this thing anyone can have and its a personal failure if you're not, and yet, we acknowledge through that label and that ad that it says something about your economic status.

[Murder.Of.Crows]

...if i beat my head against this wall, any further, i might just become a vegetable. A happy vegie.. but a vegetable none the less. Can someone just swoop in and tell me im safe from all the bullshit already?

"Oh, ha ha, your on t.v., there is no such thing as religion, sexism, homophobia,transphobia,slut shaming, **** culture, etc. It was all just an elaborate joke. "

Oh wait, nevermind, if i wanted that, i would just watch fox.

[Saya]

I'm seriously arguing with a jackass who says calling people idiots isn't insulting, and the aboriginal just might as well starve to death because how are their lives better than the lives of the caribou?

I'm defending hunting an endangered species, you guys, take a picture.

[Solumina]

I was really confused for a minute because I thought the caribou population was pretty healthy but apparently the woodland caribou population (the majority of the ones in Canada) are endangered but other populations (like the one in Alaska) are in much better shape.

[Saya]

So I guess with the dog picture he can't tell what I look like, but he decided to call me a racist for saying white people think being called racist is worse than actual racism.

I feel like this should be framed. The white vegan racistly preys on white men trying to protect the caribou.

[Solumina]

Dude it is a totally historic moment, I know I'll remember it forever.

[Miss Absynthe]

I won't rant about the body-shaming issue, other than to say that fitness doesn't equate to thinness.

I'm 112kg and I am only just shy of running 10km. I missed it by about 50m on Sunday. That is a metric fucktonne more of fitness than most of the thinner people that I know.

With regards to the sex work issue.. I hate the "what sort of guy??" questions almost as much as I hate the "what sort of woman??" questions. If a consenting adult wants to work in the industry, let them.. if a consenting adult wants to make use of that industry, let them.

Some of the nicest and most wonderful people I've met have been clients - the stereotype that they are all socially inept losers is as untrue as the stereotype that all sex workers are junkies or victims of human trafficking.

[Miss Absynthe]

Originally Posted by Saya

The white vegan racistly preys on white men trying to protect the caribou.

You awful awful oppressor, you!

[Solumina]

I didn't mean to imply that there was anything wrong with a man going to a sex worker, sorry if it came across that way. I only meant that people who view sex work as a shameful or disgusting thing (which I don't provided that everything is legal and safe) seem to only think it is shameful for the women involved.

[Miss Absynthe]

I didn't think that you were saying that.. and I'm sorry if it seemed like I was snarking at you.

I just hear it a lot - along with the "oh.. you poor thing, it must be so awful to have those disgusting men slobbering all over you!" It gets tiring.

The rhetoric gets tiring, not the slobbering.. the slobbering isn't actually a thing.

[Saya]

I find it interesting too the assumption that its always men, you know? Like some of the strip bars here, much to the displeasure of lesbians (and lesbian strippers, of which there are a lot) require women to have male escorts to get into the bar. And there's very little dialogue on queer sex workers in general. I can't imagine what trans* people who don't pass have to go through to get in.

[Solumina]

Interesting, I didn't know that was an issue. I've been to a few strip clubs and never had a problem getting in but maybe that has to do with the fact that in Virginia in order to serve alcohol a place has to be designated as a restaurant and is required to serve real food.

[Saya]

Could be, the more popular strip joints here promote themselves as "gentlemen's clubs", although they had this radio ad that drove me nuts where this woman was talking about how her blind date takes her to this strip club (one of the ones that has this male escort policy) and how he made her feel she was the most beautiful woman in the room, "even though I clearly wasn't". And she ends it by saying of course she didn't have sex with him (how slutty would that be!), but she wanted to.

[Solumina]

Ugh I just do not feel like myself today

[ape descendant]

Uh, my most recent post has disappeared. :'(

[Fruitbat]

Originally Posted by ape descendant

Uh, my most recent post has disappeared. :'(

It was me! I ran off with it. We are now married. Me and your post. It was an amazing ceremony. All my fruity and batty friends were invited. The post wore white.

[ape descendant]

That post had no business wearing white.